Attending Couples Therapy Alone or With Your Partner
Individual Couples Therapy
Are you thinking about going to couples therapy but your partner is unwilling to attend with you? No need to wait until your partner has a change of heart. You are half of the relationship that you are in. Any change you make or any insights you may realize —be it new behaviors, feelings, or attitudes—will directly impact the other person, POTENTIALLY prompting him or her to adjust to a new dynamic. When one person in a relationship “system” changes, the entire thing shifts. In fact, individual work is sometimes even recommended before couples counseling begins, so that each person begins to understand their own subjective emotional feelings and reactions. They learn what new behaviors they can employ to help facilitate solutions rather than perpetuating blame, defensiveness, and criticism.
With Your Partner
Couples therapy with your partner is extremely collaborative. “Picking sides” do not exist in the therapy room. Couples therapy with your partner requires a commitment to our work as a team, an ability to be open when looking what you bring into the relationship (both positive and negative) without defensiveness, and a commitment to altering your own ineffectual behaviors. If you and your partner are willing to begin this process and you are experiencing communication breakdown, diminished sexual desire and activity level, replaying old arguments and resurrecting old hurts, resentment and contempt have replaced patience and love, one or both of you are having an affair, or something else, couples therapy with your partner is for you.
Reasons for Couples Therapy
Non Traditional Relationship
About Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy is for couples that are in despair – frightened that their relationship is beyond help. Their communications have broken down, trust has eroded and sex is almost nonexistent. Couples therapy is also for the fundamentally strong couples that may be facing a specific crisis and want the aid of a professional.
Partners come into couples counseling or marriage counseling with a variety of issues to address including communication & conflict resolution, sexual & intimacy issues, fighting and anger problems, identity and role conflict, dependence vs. independence, religion, ethics and values, jealousy, parenting, infidelity, money and finances, addiction, family and in-law struggles, step family issues, gender roles, infertility / adoption, and many more.
Working together as a team, I will guide you to:
– Identify negative patterns that are hindering the quality of your relationship & friendship.
– Learn how to stop blaming each other so you can work through problems without power struggles.
– Recognize the ’cause & effect’ patterns in your relationship.
– Find healthy ways to communicate and relate to each other, which will strengthen the quality of your partnership.
– Get through the difficult phase when ‘the business of love’ (daily stressors) interferes with romance and connection.
– Reconnect to the love and passion of your earlier relationship.
Getting Started is Easy
Free 25 Min Chat
Consultations are offered to answer any questions or concerns you may have and to determine if we are a good fit. The therapeutic relationship is the most important aspect of therapy so it’s important that you feel comfortable with the therapist. Consultations can be completed by phone, in-person or by video.
Once we have determined that we are a good fit, you can book your first appointment on this website. Once your appointment is booked, you will receive an email with an invite to the Client Portal where you will have access to scheduling your appointments with the therapist, where you will receive your invoices for services rendered, where you will view and sign documents electronically, and where you will update your personal information.
Your first session will be 60-90 minutes in length. Forms and documents will be reviewed and your therapist will complete an assessment with you in order to get an idea of who you are as a person and to discuss the things that may have brought you to therapy. The first session is also where we will collaboratively identify your therapy goals and determine a course of treatment to achieve those goals.
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